The Eyes Have It.

While I was at training this week the inevitable discussion of what part of the body (generally female) first gets your attention was brought up. Mine may be boring, but it is without a doubt the eyes. This goes for both men and women (not physical attraction, just first impressions!).

They say the eyes are the windows of the soul. I am not sure what that is fully supposed to mean, but I do know that when I see a person's eyes I can generally draw some conclusions about them. As for the color? I prefer brown. That may sound silly, and I know you will say "That's the most common color!" but it is true for me. I am not sure why, but I was telling a friend the other day that I never had a girlfriend that didn't have brown eyes, and come to think of it, I never even dated a blonde. What does that say about me?

So what do I like to see in eyes? I really like to see a mix of confidence and vulnerability. Maybe I am crazy and you can't see that in eyes. Maybe I am reading into it what I want to see, but I don't think so. I think you really can see these things in someone's eyes.

I don't like cocky people. Mainly because they can never be real. I like real people. I want to surround myself with real people. Life is too short and time is too precious to waste it on people who will never be real with you. That's where vulnerability comes into play. I don't think you can be real if you aren't willing to be  vulnerable enough to reveal yourself.

I think this is a part of me that sometimes people don't get. I will stay friends with some people who may rub others the wrong way and seem to be the cocky type I don't want to be around. Why do I stay with them? Generally because they have been vulnerable and real with me. When you get a glimpse into the (this may sound cheesy) soul of someone and see a good person, it makes me often ignore the outer persona that person projects. For sure there are limits to this, but it is a general truth for me.

I also like people who tell you what they think. This is where the confidence comes into play. I hate guessing what someone is thinking. I want them to tell me. I don't get my feelings hurt very easily if someone who is real tells me how they feel about something.

What else do I like to see in eyes? I guess a sense of wonder. I am constantly amazed by the world around us. You can find something beautiful and awe inspiring around every corner. You just have to be looking. Some people have the look in their eyes that they are just trying to get to the next objective in life. I want to be surrounded by people who take the time to notice things. To laugh about things. To feel things about life. To even cry about life at times. Regardless of your religious views, the fact is that all of us have a finite amount of time here...I want to be constantly reminded of what a privilege it is.